Is there really such a thing as ‘Coming of Age’? The concept brings about in me the feeling that to do so, would mean everything has conspired (aspired, inspired) to bring me to a point where the pieces of the puzzle make sense. Where all of a sudden, things fall into place and I’m poised on the edge of being propelled into ‘success’ and that my time has finally come.
That what seemed intangible is now foreseeable – a sense of arrival, pride and comfort at where I am – that after awkwardness, confusion, lack of clarity and an ill-fitting place in the world, the duckling has become the swan.
I’m hoping there’s a neon signs to signal it out for me. Is there an app to tell me how to get there and advise me of when I’ve arrived?
I can proudly say I’ve always gone where my heart led me. I’ve remained in the performing arts industry since I graduated from drama School over 15 years ago.
I have continuously worked, auditioned, failed, learned, and been in pools of intense frustration, fear and joy, but I have never stopped. I have worked hard. I have wanted to give up. I have been afraid that I may never work again.
I feel there has been no true ‘coming of age’ moment. I am not striving for a particular outcome to signify my ‘success’, but rather, I have achieved an enormous amount of professional-good-ju-ju (yes, it’s a real word) and each time an extraordinary opportunity comes my way, it raises me up and keeps me going.
My experiences to this point have led me to where I am – my arrival is to the moment, every single day – the moment-to-moment of arrival. This is my coming of age.
The last 5 of my 7 years in London was spent training in the Meisner technique as a student then mentored to teach by the incredible Scott Williams. I became 1 of 3 trainers in the entire UK for Cirque du Soleil’s social circus program, I am forever working on my acting career, I am a qualified life coach, I’ve been a Sekhem energy healer for over 13 years and I am now almost a qualified Kinesiologist. All of these are part of my offering to the world, and no one of them signified a specific point of arrival – but they all combine to allow me to arrive at ME, every single day.
I think that perhaps it is better to approach the idea with the knowledge that every single day you arrive – because the things you’ve dreamt of, worked towards and focused on (conscious or not) have brought you to this point. Be proud of everything you’ve done to get to this point. It makes you who you are.
And never, ever give up.